Gymnastics IS too hard.
First of all, don’t discount her point of view. From a
certain perspective, working out 6 days a week, 12 months a year for years
and years just to make Regionals or Nationals, especially if there does
not seem to be much chance of winning at those levels is not worth it.
Certainly, this problem will likely be impossible to deals with if you
do not recognize the validity of her position (whatever that may be).
What Happened While She Was Tripping?
If you are convinced that nothing in the gym is the cause of the problem,
investigate what happened on her trip (time away from the gym). To
do this you may want to:
Sit down with the girl by herself
Sit down with girl and her parents
Reinvestigate “No Issue” in the Gym or With Other Girls
Let’s face it, it is not uncommon for girls in the gym and without
to form cliques that exclude or belittle other girls. Girls are often
fairly expert at disguising their actions in these kinds of situations.
It would not be uncommon either for the girl herself to be reticent to
talk about what really happened with other girls on the team and how that
is bothering her. I would make carefully check again and make sure there
is really nothing going on. To do that you may want to:
Sit down with girls in the gym
Sit down with the girl by herself
Sit down with girl and her parents
Fear May Be Rearing Its Ugly Head
At some point and at some age, gymnasts lose that feeling of invulnerability
that they had at a younger age. They find out that they are mortal
and may be injured making the sport now seem too hard. This can happen
if they have or see an injury (small or large) or even if they just mature
and come to the realization of their vulnerability. Sit down with
her and go through each skill she is doing and working on and see if there
is any indication of fear problems and then you will have some idea of
what you are dealing with.
The Other Side of the Fence
Even a short break from the sport can give gymnasts a new view of “normal”
life – what their life would be without long daily practices. Personal
contacts that they may have made during the break can give them a different
perspective on their own life and what the life of others their age is
like. At some points in a gymnast’s life, the other life can seem
very attractive.
Burn Out
It is a fact of gymnastics life that gymnasts can burn out or coaches
can burn them out. Especially if you run a program wholly or primarily
based on repetition, at some point gymnasts have had enough of the same
old mind-numbing routine. Many coaches don’t learn their lesson (to
vary workouts) until they have personally burned out some number of talented
gymnasts.
Been There, Done That
The fact that she has been to Nationals could have been enough to meet
her goals in the sport especially if she saw the handwriting on the wall
that she likely will never be at the top (win Nationals). Without
further realistic goals, her drive to continue the sport may have diminished
to the point she is ready to quit and go on to something else. This
can be difficult to counteract but one strategy would be to emphasize the
general benefits of the sport as they apply to her – fitness, friendships,
competition successes, college scholarships, etc..
How Old?
You didn’t mention how old she was, but don’t kid yourself. There
is a tremendous turnover in teen gymnasts at every level of the sport.
This varies from country to country and from time to time, but we have
seen times where every member of the National Team quit the sport in the
same year. The teenage years are radically different from being a
young pre-puberty gymnast and it is more common than not for teenagers
to quit the sport.
Boys
We have a saying here in the States that the first time a gymnast’s
boyfriend gets a car, you have seen her in the gym for the last time.
A boy she met during her time away from the gym or at school could be the
real reason she is not willing to continue spending all her time in the
gym. She may need advice on balancing friendships and relationships
and her gymnastics and be made aware of the attraction many boys have to
girls who are in great shape and are accomplished athletes.
Peer Pressure
Very few of a gymnast’s friends have any real concept of what a gymnast’s
life is like and how much is demanded of them. Peer pressure from
friends to participate in the day-to-day social life that non-gymnasts
enjoy can be intense. We like to consistently allow gymnasts’ friends
to come to open gym and special team parties, so they can see what their
friends can really do and how great they are at the sport to counter this
kind of problem.
Offer Reduced Practice
Consider an offer of reduced practice and time commitment while you
are trying to reinvigorate and re-motivate her. You want her in the
gym at least enough so she doesn’t lose her conditioning. Sure you
want her to maintain her training for Regionals, but you may have to take
what you can get and something may be better than nothing.
Professional Help
Many coaches may not have the time or psychology/counseling background
and experience to be able deal with this kind of situation or your efforts
may not get the effect you and her parents desire. You and her parents
should consider using a professional to determine the cause of the problem
and to help resolve the situation to her benefit.
Good Luck!
We wish your gymnast, you and her parents good luck in finding out
what is really going on and what is best for this particular
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